Madison Birth Doula services

You may be wondering if a doula is right for you...

You may be wondering if a doula is right for you...

Can a doula really help you feel empowered in your birth? Will they get in the way, or pressure you into a certain type of birth? Won’t my partner/friend/family member provide enough support? (plus, I don’t want extra people seeing me naked!) Those are really common questions and concerns, and I’m here to answer them.

I think doulas can be helpful to anyone having a baby. It doesn’t matter where you are having your baby, or what your ideal birth looks like.

You deserve the support of someone who “gets” you, believes in you, and supports your choices.

Most people don't know what to expect from their birth experience.

They may assume their nurse will be with them the whole time, that their partner will be fantastic, and that labor will be short albeit painful. They’ll go into labor by their due date, they’ll get their epidural just when they want it, and their midwife or doctor will be there with them for the entire journey. And then their birth doesn’t happen that way at all and they leave wondering what just happened? How were all their assumptions wrong? And who do they turn to figure it out?

I don't want to paint a picture of doom and gloom but birth is unpredictable, unplannable, and always has a surprise or two. And nothing is going to help someone navigate the unknown better than a doula. I don’t want you to go through this alone, unseen, and unprepared. Even if you have the sweetest birth imaginable, a doula is going to make it even better!

What is a badass birth? Different than you might imagine!

It might be ... fast, in the hospital, long, in the car (!), vaginal, by cesarean, at home, overwhelming, gentle, by forceps, medicated, magical, induced, spiritual, overwhelming, powerful ... and more!

Think of a doula as your personal ‘familiar’. A ‘familiar’ is a friendly entity, an ally that aids and assists you. A familiar knows you, and you know them.

When you are in labor, you will need someone who knows what you want and understands the birth process and the medical system. For most folks, those are unfamiliar arenas and hard to navigate when you are busy having a baby, or are a tired and stressed out partner.

But with your familiar doula by your side, you’re going to be more relaxed, all your needs will be taken care of, and someone you know and trust is going to guide you each step of the way.

badass doula support in pregnancy, birth & postpartum

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prenatal visits

These visits are held in your home, or a coffee shop, or other comfortable location. Our time together is fun, casual, and super helpful. We discuss all sorts of things: your vision for your birth, what you think will be helpful to you in labor, your partner’s (or others who will be at your birth) role.

We can practice positions and movements if you like, write a birth plan, make helpful lists, and share resources. Some clients ask me to attend one of their doctor/midwife visits with them - to meet their care provider, help remember questions to ask, and debrief after - so if that would be helpful for you, one of your prenatal visits can be used in that way.

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labor & birth

I join you at your home or place of birth when you feel like you need my support. I offer suggestions, hands-on comfort, and helpful tools from my birth bag. I support you in various positions, or do them with you. I help you with encouragement or rest, information and advocacy. I’m right by your side (physically or energetically).

I stay with you for as long as it takes, and help your partner or other support people pace themselves. After your baby is born, I stay for an hour or two to help you get comfortable, feed your baby and yourself, and get settled in for your postpartum stay.

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postpartum visits

I visit you at home a few days after your baby is born. This visit is like an old friend (who knows a lot about postpartum and feeding a newborn, but isn’t full of opinions and unwanted advice) stopping by to check in on you. You don’t have to get out of bed, I’ll fold your laundry.

And I’ll give you tips, resources, a kind ear, a foot rub, and a hug. Along with anything else you need as you blossom into a brand new parent.

 

Now the question is... am I the doula for you?

Now the question is... am I the doula for you?

There are three things I offer as a doula that, when combined together, make me your badass doula, your ‘familiar’:

  • 1 I take the time to know your specific preferences.
  • 2 I understand how to support the birth process, so I know what to do and when. I don’t judge how you birth, I honor it.
  • 3 As your doula, I will be many things for you. I can be an extra set of hands to help comfort you in labor, or I can give your partner or other support people expert guidance for how to assist you. I will be as involved as you want me to be, providing primary support or being a calming presence in the background. I will be at the ready with many tips and tricks for when you don’t know what to do, and celebrate your badass self when you know exactly what you need.

What I won’t do is tell you how to do you. I won’t save you from complicated relationships, or make you have a perfect birth. Birth is the great unknown, and I am not a future-seer, so I can’t tell you what is going to happen.

You’re a badass, remember, so my job is to amplify that, not weaken you by being some sort of misguided savior.

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