Meet Anya Wait, Madison, wi {badass} Birth Doula
Hey badass birther, I see you over there…
Hey badass birther, I see you over there…
Badasses recognize themselves in each other. I think I’m pretty badass too.
I have been through some pretty amazing and tough things in my life. When I’m faced with challenges, I prefer to lean into them. When I don’t know what to do, I get really determined and ask for help. I expect that things will not always go my way, and I’m prepared to step into the unknown. Even when I feel alone or awkward, I stay true to my inner self. And I surround myself with people who honor who I am because I’m not out to please others.
I’m scared and fearless, proud and humble, strong and vulnerable, firm and kind. And some people say I’m pretty wicked funny.
So maybe you kept reading because some part of this sounds familiar. Maybe you already know you’re a badass. Or maybe you’re still trying to find your way back to that part of yourself.
Either way, you’re in the right place.
I’m Anya Wait: mom, widow, partner, doula, photographer, former midwife, traveler, music lover, and avid reader.
I’ve raised five children, survived the death of my husband, built successful businesses, traveled alone to sixteen countries, and gotten myself into — and out of — more than a few sticky situations.
Those experiences changed me. They stripped away many of the illusions we use to protect ourselves from pain, uncertainty, and loss. The road has been long, and at times unbearably hard, but it shaped me into a badass doula and a deeply grounded human being.
I’ve attended births in rural homes and city apartments, on Amish farms and in suburban neighborhoods. I’ve worked in freestanding birth centers, level-one trauma hospitals, and tiny rural hospitals without an obstetrician on staff. I’ve supported unassisted births as an extra set of hands and stood beside families during crash cesareans under general anesthesia.
Since 1993, I’ve attended more than 1,000 births.
And through all of it, I gave birth to and raised five children of my own. Every labor, every baby, every family was different. Each one taught me something new.
For many birth workers, birth itself becomes the greatest teacher.
Doula Educational Experience:
1997 - DONA approved birth doula training and certification
2001 - Neonatal Advanced Life Support
2002 - ALSO - Advanced Life Support in Obstetrics
2019 - Spinning Babies
2021 - BADT - Crisis Response for Birth Workers Workshop
2021 - Birth Doula and Trauma Informed Care Provider Certification - Childbirth International
2021 - Neonatal Advanced Life Support
2023-2024- Body Ready Method Training
2025 - Postpartum Doula Certification - Childbirth International
2025 - Energy Healing for Perinatal Anxiety
2025 - Reiki for Birth - currently enrolled
2025 - NICU for doulas training - currently enrolled
2025 - Bundle Birth Nurses Basic Fetal Monitoring
2025 - American Red Cross Infant, Child, and Adult CPR, First Aid, AED certification
I am able to accept Carrot Fertility, United Healthcare, Tricare West, and some Blue Cross Blue Shield Plans. Please contact your insurance company to confirm doula coverage. My billing software is able to process HSA and FSA cards as well.
What is a badass doula?
A badass doula knows that how you move through pregnancy, birth and postpartum – not what kind of birth you have – is what makes you a badass.
I’ve sat by the side of clients who have had to make the hardest decisions of their lives with dignity, grace, and conviction when it wasn’t what they had hoped for. And witnessed others go through birth with vulnerability, knowing that falling apart is okay too. That is badass!
A badass doula understands...
the base, core elements of what it is to be human, and sits with presence and resolve to see people through their greatest challenges.
A badass doula is...
someone who can help you dig deep – deeper than you knew was possible – with tender compassion.
A badass doula can...
rise from personal trauma, and turn their pain into an uber-compassionate and non-judgmental capacity to be with people.
A badass doula knows...
their personal opinions are just that – theirs – and raises the choices and desires of their clients as the primary voice in the room. You are more than welcome to explain your choices to me, but you never have to.
Simply put, a badass doula sees the badassness in everyone else, and helps them feel badass too.
So how did I get into birth work? My journey...
I was raised in Southern California, moved to Iowa as a teen, and attended a Quaker boarding school. I got pregnant with my eldest son immediately following graduation from high school, but didn’t let that stop me. I moved to Missouri to attend college with my high school boyfriend.
During that pregnancy, I fell and went to the ER to get checked out. I waited forever in that ER because all the OBs were busy in cesarean after cesarean after cesarean. I asked the OB resident (when they finally came in), “How many cesareans do they do at this hospital?!” I was told the cesarean rate was 39%.
My birth - and baggage...
It didn’t take me long to decide I didn’t want to be a part of their statistics, so I did a bit of research, found a midwife and decided to birth at the local birth center.
My labor was long, and I transferred after 36 hours of active labor for some needed medical support. Somehow I thought I had done something wrong to need to go to the hospital. The message in those days was that if you planned a natural birth, but had interventions, you had a “mental block.”
To work on my “mental block”, I got a job working at the birth center when my son was seven months old. I began to realize that everyone in birth work has baggage – it wasn’t just me – even the midwives weren’t perfect. In fact I left that job to learn more about birth in a hospital setting.
I had been fascinated by the doctor who attended me at the hospital, so I decided I wanted to be a family practice doctor specializing in OB.
I studied biology, and worked as the L&D unit coordinator in the local hospital, where I met my future husband who was the chief OB resident at the time.
We moved to rural Arkansas, where my future husband got a job, and there was a student midwifery opportunity for me, which spoke to my heart. I was attending more births as a student midwife than my husband was attending as an OB. We were also able to attend births together, with him as my preceptor in the hospital. Even the local pediatrician embraced my desire to learn, by teaching me how to assess babies immediately post-birth, and master newborn exams.
Then we moved to Indiana, where practicing midwifery was illegal.
So... I worked “illegally” alongside my husband to deliver care to pregnant people in my area desiring home birth. This also led to training as a doula so I could accompany my clients in the hospital more under the radar. We moved to Wisconsin in 2000, and I was finally able to practice as a midwife in a more supportive environment. I had a busy midwifery practice in Madison and left only to birth my fourth and fifth babies.
Then, because I can never get enough of babies and families, I began photographing newborns and finally moved full circle back to births once all my kids were born, and a little older. I have been a professional photographer since 2008, and have both the experience and the equipment to photograph in a variety of lighting situations, so I added that to my repertoire.
As I birth photographer I realized I was also offering doula services to my clients, even though I wasn't charging for it. And (shhhh!) I may have caught a few babies along the way (see photo on left). In 2020 I finally made it official and changed all my offerings adding both birth and postpartum doula care.
So how did I get into birth work? My journey...
I was raised in Southern California, moved to Iowa as a teen, and attended a Quaker boarding school. I got pregnant with my eldest son immediately following graduation from high school, but didn’t let that stop me. I moved to Missouri to attend college with my high school boyfriend.
During that pregnancy, I fell and went to the ER to get checked out. I waited forever in that ER because all the OBs were busy in cesarean after cesarean after cesarean. I asked the OB resident (when they finally came in), “How many cesareans do they do at this hospital?!” I was told the cesarean rate was 39%.
My birth - and baggage...
It didn’t take me long to decide I didn’t want to be a part of their statistics, so I did a bit of research, found a midwife and decided to birth at the local birth center.
My labor was long, and I transferred after 36 hours of active labor for some needed medical support. Somehow I thought I had done something wrong to need to go to the hospital. The message in those days was that if you planned a natural birth, but had interventions, you had a “mental block.”
To work on my “mental block”, I got a job working at the birth center when my baby was seven months old. I began to realize that everyone in birth work has baggage – it wasn’t just me – even the midwives weren’t perfect.
I had been fascinated by the doctor who attended me at the hospital, so I decided I wanted to be a family practice doctor specializing in OB.
I studied biology, and worked as the L&D unit coordinator in the local hospital, where I met my future husband who was the chief OB resident at the time.
We moved to rural Arkansas, where my future husband got a job, and there was a student midwifery opportunity for me, which spoke to my heart. I was attending more births as a student midwife than my husband was attending as an OB. We were also able to attend births together, with him as my preceptor in the hospital. Even the local pediatrician embraced my desire to learn, by teaching me how to assess babies immediately post-birth, and master newborn exams.
Then we moved to Indiana, where practicing midwifery was illegal.
So... I worked “illegally” alongside my husband to deliver care to pregnant people in my area desiring home birth. This also led to training as a doula so I could accompany my clients in the hospital more under the radar. We moved to Wisconsin in 2000, and I was finally able to practice as a midwife in a more supportive environment. I had a busy midwifery practice in Madison and left only to birth my fourth and fifth babies.
Then, because I can never get enough of babies and families, I began photographing newborns and finally moved full circle back to births once all my kids were born. I have been a professional photographer since 2008, and have both the experience and the equipment to photograph in a variety of lighting situations (which is a must for professional birth photography), so I added that to my repertoire.
As I birth photographer I realized I was also offering doula services to my clients, even though I wasn't charging for it. And (shhhh!) I may have caught a few babies along the way (see photo on left). In 2020 I finally made it official and changed all my offerings adding both birth and postpartum doula care.
"I thought I was buying a photography package to document my journey into motherhood. I got so much more than I budgeted for. Anya’s knowledge and experience in the field of birth translated to invaluable support and authentic caring when our birth plans had to suddenly change. She put my photo-shy husband at ease and worked with us to craft beautiful images that have helped me heal and embrace my story after a birth that went nothing like planned."